LeatherDFW

LeatherDFWhttp://leatherdfw.blog.co.uk/en-UShourly82000-01-01T12:00+00:00LeatherDFWhttp://leatherdfw.blog.co.uk/http://data5.blog.de/design/preview/30/8db9a0c877193c152d588b3b463f28_160x200.jpgAddiction... (Sexual, etc.)http://leatherdfw.blog.co.uk/2006/03/29/addiction_sexual_etc~682492/2006-03-29T10:28:39+02:00 So, I "acted out" today... except I really shouldn't characterize it as acting out -- I had given myself permission for sexual activity outside my long-term relationship as being above my "bottom line". Yes, I am a sexual addict and have been working on managing my addiction since the late nineties. I have not had sex with my life partner in approximately a year-and-a-half, and even prior to that, any occurances were few and far between. Both my partner and I have self-image/self-esteem issues (please, who doesn't...?) and these combined with the shit life throws at one (career, loss of career, stress, etc.) have conspired to make us condense our intimacy at another level rather than sexual. I would like to explore this issue with my partner (who did know about my history going into our relationship), but he isn't open to the idea of assisted dialogue or couples counseling, whereas I don't think we'll get very far on the topic without the guidance. Although I've tried to address this with him previously, we don't get far before someone gets angry or the conversation is aborted. I attend a weekly sexual compulsivity group and they were quite helpful this week in listening and providing support and suggestions. Perhaps I'll have another go at discussing the concern soon. Meanwhile, I'm beyond the point of simply masturbating away my sexual drive and have given myself persmission to have sex outside the relationship on a careful basis. I do have concern that this is opening Pandora's Box. We shall see... <a href="http://leatherdfw.blog.co.uk/2006/03/29/addiction_sexual_etc~682492/#comments">Comments</a> So, I "acted out" today... except I really shouldn't characterize it as acting out -- I had given myself permission for sexual activity outside my long-term relationship as being above my "bottom line". Yes, I am a sexual addict and have been working on managing my addiction since the late nineties.

I have not had sex with my life partner in approximately a year-and-a-half, and even prior to that, any occurances were few and far between. Both my partner and I have self-image/self-esteem issues (please, who doesn't...?) and these combined with the shit life throws at one (career, loss of career, stress, etc.) have conspired to make us condense our intimacy at another level rather than sexual.

I would like to explore this issue with my partner (who did know about my history going into our relationship), but he isn't open to the idea of assisted dialogue or couples counseling, whereas I don't think we'll get very far on the topic without the guidance. Although I've tried to address this with him previously, we don't get far before someone gets angry or the conversation is aborted. I attend a weekly sexual compulsivity group and they were quite helpful this week in listening and providing support and suggestions. Perhaps I'll have another go at discussing the concern soon.

Meanwhile, I'm beyond the point of simply masturbating away my sexual drive and have given myself persmission to have sex outside the relationship on a careful basis. I do have concern that this is opening Pandora's Box. We shall see...

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]]>Initial Blog-a-rinohttp://leatherdfw.blog.co.uk/2006/03/25/initial_blog_a_rino~673467/2006-03-25T13:28:59+01:00 Why might a Yank choose to register w/ blog.co.uk, you ask? Well, somehow I came across an excellent blog (http://abearinmanchester.blog.co.uk) that happens to reside here. While reading Neil's terrific stuff, I realized the clean, spare organization of blog.co.uk appealed to me much more than some of the schlock sites in the U.S. So, off we go -- here's a bit about LeatherDFW: * 37 y/o gay male * Reside in Dallas / Fort Worth area of North Texas * Texan native -- family still operates 4th generation ranch west of Ft. Worth * Why "LeatherDFW"? Silly nick, I guess; I do like wearing leather on occasion (although not into the "lifestyle", per se) and live in the D/FW area of North Texas It's 0600 here. Enjoyed a nice meal last night at a Dallas Mexican w/ my husbear, Blaine; however, the meal kind of came back at me and I've been up since 1230. Studied for biology and took two tests on-line. Been chatting w/ a few folks on bear411 and listening to iTunes since. I look forwarding to meeting and talking with interesting people here and I appreciate you stopping by! J.D. - <a href="http://leatherdfw.blog.co.uk/2006/03/25/initial_blog_a_rino~673467/#comments">Comments</a> Why might a Yank choose to register w/ blog.co.uk, you ask? Well, somehow I came across an excellent blog (http://abearinmanchester.blog.co.uk) that happens to reside here. While reading Neil's terrific stuff, I realized the clean, spare organization of blog.co.uk appealed to me much more than some of the schlock sites in the U.S.

So, off we go -- here's a bit about LeatherDFW:

* 37 y/o gay male
* Reside in Dallas / Fort Worth area of North Texas
* Texan native -- family still operates 4th generation ranch west of Ft. Worth
* Why "LeatherDFW"? Silly nick, I guess; I do like wearing leather on occasion (although not into the "lifestyle", per se) and live in the D/FW area of North Texas

It's 0600 here. Enjoyed a nice meal last night at a Dallas Mexican w/ my husbear, Blaine; however, the meal kind of came back at me and I've been up since 1230. Studied for biology and took two tests on-line. Been chatting w/ a few folks on bear411 and listening to iTunes since.

I look forwarding to meeting and talking with interesting people here and I appreciate you stopping by!

J.D. -

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